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Raising boys to be good men : a parent's guide to bringing up happy sons in a world filled with toxic masculinity / Aaron Gouveia.

Gouveia, Aaron, (author.).

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  • 6 of 9 copies available at Evergreen Indiana.

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Clinton PL - Clinton C 649.132 GOU (Text) 36806002112298 HALLWAY Checked out 08/10/2021
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Record details

  • ISBN: 9781510749412
  • ISBN: 1510749411
  • Physical Description: xix, 183 pages ; 22 cm
  • Publisher: New York : Skyhorse Publishing, [2020]

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Formatted Contents Note:
Introduction : when you're part of the problem -- The bullshit starts before the birth. Don't find out/tell anyone the sex of the baby ; Avoid the gender reveal party ; Dads - go to baby classes and get in the delivery room ; It's OK to talk about miscarriage ; Don't assume you're immune to toxic masculinity -- Congratulations, you're a parent - welcome to the jungle. Take maternity/paternity leave (if you can) ; Dads - stagger your leave if possible ; Dive fully and deeply into your leave and tell everyone you took it ; Don't accept different standards for moms and dads ; Avoid stereotypically gendered clothes/products ; Parents - don't gatekeep ; Model respect for stay-at-home parents ; Embrace and encourage stay-at-home dads, and make sure your kids do, too -- Don't let school harden boys unnecessarily. Teach kids to embrace differences, not fear or mock them ; Teach boys to stand up for what's right ; Teach boys that "gay" is not an insult ; Teach boys that "girl" is not an insult ; Eliminate "boys will be boys" and "man up" from your vocabulary ; Let boys know platonic touch is OK ; It's OK for boys to feel sad and seek help ; Let boys pursue nontraditional interests ; Avoid harmful double standards for boys and girls (especially when it comes to dating) ; Don't teach boys that sexual abuse is acceptable ; Have a social media plan for your kids -- It's time to get controversial. Don't let boys fall victim to gun culture ; Embrace politics and discuss them with your kids ; Teach boys (especially white boys) about privilege ; Talk to boys about bodily autonomy and boundaries ; Teach boys about consent and how not to contribute to rape culture ; The problem with porn and hookup culture ; Don't fear the #MeToo movement; learn from it ; Don't spank your kids ; The problem with chivalry ; Let boys know it's not all about the money ; Reexamine your religion when bringing up kids -- Conclusion : failure is not an option. Be a fierce and relentless advocate for boys.
Summary, etc.:
Our boys are in a crisis. Toxic masculinity and tough guy-ism are on display daily from our leaders, and we see anger, dysfunction, violence, and depression in young men who are suffocated by harmful social codes. Our young sons are told to stop throwing like a girl. They hear phrases like "man up" when they cry. They are told "boys will be boys" when they behave badly. The "Girl Power" movement has encouraged women to be whoever and do whatever they want, but that sentiment is not often extended to boys. Just watch the bullying when boys try ballet, paint their fingernails, or play with a doll. But we can treat this problem and the power lies in the hands of parents. It's not only possible to raise boys who aren't emotionally stifled and shoved into stereotypical gender boxes; it's vital if we want a generation of men who can express their emotions, respect women, and help nurse society back to a halfway healthy place. We can reframe manhood.
Subject: Parenting.
Child rearing.
Boys > Socialization.
Genre: Family and Relationships > Nonfiction.

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