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Reluctantly related : secrets to getting along with your mother-in-law or daughter-in-law / Deanna Brann.

Brann, Deanna, (author.).
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Adams PL Sys. - Decatur Branch 646.78 BRA REL (Text) 34207001994566 Adult Non-Fiction Available -

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  • ISBN: 9780988810006
  • Physical Description: 181 pages ; 22 cm
  • Publisher: Knoxville, Tennessee : Ambergris Publishing, [2013]

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Part I: The making of the MIL-DIL relationship -- Part II: The characters -- Part III: Patterns and solutions -- Part IV: Finishing touches.
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At last, "RELUCTANTLY RELATED: SECRETS TO GETTING ALONG WITH YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW OR DAUGHTER-IN-LAW" gives us the definitive work on the all too common family dilemma of stressful relationships between mothers-in-law (MILs) and daughters-in law (DILs). Leading in-law relationship authority Dr. Deanna Brann delivers an insightful, stimulating guide for determining the root causes of mother-in-law/daughter-in-law difficulties and more importantly, provides the situation-specific, practical tools to change things for the better. While dealing with this often difficult or even painful subject, "RELUCTANTLY RELATED" is engaging and wonderfully readable with its extensive use of real world conversation examples and lighthearted cartoons. Dr. Brann introduces you to her witty collection of mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and husband/son personality types - from Off-the Wall Wanda to Doubting Donna to Struggling Steven - and goes on to show you how to identify the types in your own family. She then explains in everyday language how combinations of these personality types present relationship challenges, but goes on to give practical, hands-on tools for mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law to improve their relationship. There has never been such an entertaining yet helpful resource on the specific problems between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. "RELUCANTLY RELATED" provides unique, straightforward help to any MIL/DIL challenged family, and should be required reading for newlyweds and their mothers! Publisher marketing.
Subject: Mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.

Part I The Making of the MIL-DIL Relationship
Chapter 1 The Thanksgiving From Hell
Michelle's Story
My Story
Chapter 2 Why the MIL-DIL Relationship Is So Hard
The Artificial Element
Different Stages, Different Emotional Places
Personal History and Carry-On Baggage
Perception Is Reality, Right?
There's Reacting, and Then There's Reacting!
PART II The Characters
Introduction to the Characters
Chapter 3 Mothers-in-Law
Comfortable Carla
Mothering Margaret
Off-the- Wall Wanda
Uncertain Sara
Chapter 4 Daughters-in-Law
Confident Connie
Doubting Donna
Weird Wendy
Transitioned Tracy
Chapter 5 Husbands and Sons
Self-Assured Andy
In-the-Middle Michael
Struggling Steven
Character Summary
PART III Patterns and Solutions
Introduction to the Patterns and Solutions
Chapter 6 Patterns
The "Camelot" Pattern
The "Walking on Eggshells" Pattern
The "Does She Seem Nuts to You?" Pattern
The "It Is What It Is" Pattern
Chapter 7 Perception and Reaction
For MILs: a 6-step exercise
For DILs: a 6-step exercise
For MILs: a 6-step exercise
For DILs: a 6-step exercise
Chapter 8 When Your DIL Is a Doubting Donna
Check Your Mothering at the Door
Treat Your DIL as an Adult
Chapter 9 When Your DIL Is a Weird Wendy
Perfect the Double Bind
Mirror Your DIL's Words
Dealing With Extreme Unpredictability
Dealing With Extreme Cold-Shoulder Treatment
Chapter 10 When Your DIL Is a Transitioned Tracy
Shift Your Expectations
Get To Know Your DIL for Who She Really Is
Chapter 11 When Your MIL Is a Mothering Margaret
Recognize When the Situation Actually Belongs to You
Establish Your Needs and Wants Without Making Waves
Chapter 12 When Your MIL Is an Off-the-Wall Wanda
Set Firm, Clear Boundaries
Make Good Use of Humor
Chapter 13 When Your MIL Is an Uncertain Sara
Harness the Power of the Inside Joke
Examine Your Husband's Role, as Well as Your Own Role
Establish Your MIL's Role Within Your Family
PART IV Finishing Touches
Chapter 14 We've Come a Long Way, Baby!
Michelle and Me Today
A Final Note
Appendix: Questionnaires and Scoring Keys 171

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